15/01/2017

As he sees me



A few weeks ago, on a Thursday night, I randomly realise I hadn't dress JP in his (mandatory) school gown once that week.

"well, I've done it pretty, all week and no gown for you," I say, in amusement.

"Yes, that's true" - he acknowledges, clearly not so amused as me.

I know he doesn't like to be called upon that in school (yes, as you may suspect his mother has forgotten the gown on several days before -   he would be upset and wanting to go back home to get it upon arriving at school, which is not an option I can oblige, so on those days I talk to his educator personally, apologising and making it clear that it is my fault and decision he is without the gown that day. The novelty in today's story had to do with the four days in a row... without even realising ... I was doubled amused, by myself -four is a record, even for me-,  and by his apparent acceptation: he said nothing all week). His tone made it clear I misread this, so I change my tone too:

"I am sorry I have forgotten. Did Alice* say something about it?"

"No, she already knows you forget sometimes" he responds in the saddest voice.

As my heart floods with sorrow and guilt, I hold him and say "Are you upset with mummy for being such a light headed?"

"No mummy (he releases himself from the hug and looks at me)... you try so hard"


4 comments:

  1. What acceptance and compassion from someone so young - so sweet. And how clearly he sees you! No gold stars for you that week though Cristiana! Do you have an iPhone or similar? Maybe you could set it to remind you when you leave the house each day... Or perhaps he could draw a picture to put on the door as a reminder? :-)

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    1. You're right, Lotta, it's something that could be so easily fixed it's embarrassing (for now, guilt as been an effective reminder, but I love the drawing idea). Empathy is a characteristic I recognise more and more on my son, I relish in witnessing him growing so kind. As for as the try hard, it's not something people would say of me. Yet, it is a striking truth, that I often struggle to do the "easy" things right. The fact that he sees that... marvels and disturbs me equally.

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  2. Querida Cristiana,
    Sinto mesmo que o teu blogue é um cantinho cheio de coisas simples capazes de inspirar cada momento do nosso dia-a-dia, mas confesso que esta rubrica do "Simple life lessons from a three (now four) year old" já há muito que me deixa de coração cheio. É impressionante como os mais novos, de forma tão singela, mas ao mesmo tempo tenaz, conseguem transmitir-nos tanta sabedoria. E o teu filho é perito! Obrigada pela partilha! (Ficamos à espera de saber se, daqui por algum tempo, o JP já leva todos os dias a roupinha da escola vestida ;))

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    1. Sinto o mesmo sobre estas pequenas lições de vida. Eles sabem o essencial, nós só precisamos estar atentos e com o coração aberto :-) até nas nossas imperfeições (sim, por agora a bata tem ido todos os dias!)

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